I’m married. And I date other people. So does my wife.
I’m in sober living right now (which is exactly where I need to be), but this is, by definition, only temporary. I’ve started thinking about what my living situation will look like when I get a place of ‘my own’ (I’ll definitely be living with at least one other person.)
My wife and I want to get a place together in 4 or 6 or 8 or however many months. Another woman (N) and I also want to do the same. Neither of them, at this point, know that I want to move in with both of them. I need to talk to both of them about this and pretty soon. I like to think that both of them will be ok being roommates, as well. I hope, anyway.
Now, my wife and I actually have a platonic relationship and sleep in separate bedrooms. That’s all fine and dandy. N has a boyfriend. At the same time N and I are very close. To quite a recent text from her: “You mean a lot to me, more than you even know.” So, yeah. I have no idea where our relationship is going. We love each quite a bit, but things are complicated. At the that the fact that we’re both in early recovery from heroin addiction and, well… who knows? I love the way we are together now and don’t want to lose that but at the same time, I’d like to grow our relationship further. I’ve done some I Ching readings about it and I’m just going to practice loving her without getting attached, if I can.