Father’s Day

It has been about two weeks since I opened my eyes to the nature of my relationship with my wife (and the many others before her) and it has been an interesting journey so far. I’ve been doing a lot of DBT to deal with the emotions but it has not been easy. I’ve struggled […]

Cognitive Dissonance

In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. A week ago today I had the last conversation with my wife. Since that time, I’ve been struggling to come to grips with the fact that I’ve been in a very […]

Narcissistic Abuse

It appears as though I’ve been manipulated and abused by my spouse for the last several years. I initiated a ‘no contact’ policy on Tuesday and hired a divorce attorney yesterday. It’s quite confusing and unsettling and I am still struggling to accept that this is really happening. That said, every person that I have […]

Cohabitation

I just realized that it has been ages since I’ve checked in here. I’ve been very busy and very stressed the last several weeks. My wife and I are a few weeks away from our three year anniversary. It will be the first anniversary that we will actually get to spend together. We were married […]

Infinity War (Spoiler Alert)

My daughter has been bugging me for several months to watch Avengers Infinity War. With the new Avengers movie coming out this weekend, I decided that I might as well watch it. I put it on Friday night with the expectation that I’d enjoy a fun superhero movie. That isn’t what happened. I’m not going […]

Self-Compassion

Update: I just did my weekly video on this subject. In the last week or two, I’ve learned some interesting things about myself. I learned that, among the various ‘voices’ that I have running around in my head, there are two in particular that are responsible for a great deal of my suffering. I call […]